Start where you are.

“How was your vacation?”

“How was your day off?”

Two questions that I overheard today as I was out and about. I witnessed/overheard this exchange two different times by two totally different people. In this case it happened to be two women. One was older and the other was middle age or so. One worked at a supermarket and the other worked at a bank. These are normal questions that anyone would ask, especially a co-worker. But far too often, no matter how old or young, ethnic background or gender I hear the exact same answers…. “Oh, hey Sally, how was your vacation?” “It was great! didn’t do much but anything beats being here.”

You guessed right. “Here” meaning the work place.

2nd encounter:

“Hey Janice, how was your day off?” “It was wonderful, I sat around the house all day and binge-watched House Of Cards. I’m just glad I didn’t have to come into this place.”

Many people share a common bond. They hate their jobs! But is anyone doing anything about it? it’s so easy to complain or make sarcastic remarks about our jobs but unconsciously or consciously most peoples lives suck just because of their job. As I’m writing this I’m currently at a job that I hate. I don’t complain about it because I’m doing everything in my power to change my reality. I think if most of us would just attempt to change our day to day lives we would be less stressed, more energetic and more in tune with ourselves, and in turn we would look within to help assist us in the process of creation.

I started this blog for the sole purpose of creating. I wanted to produce something. I wanted something that only I could do. We can all have the exact same experiences but we won’t have the same perspective. So right or wrong, you can agree or disagree with this blog as a whole but I’m creating something that no one else can. No one else can give my perspective besides me. Another incentive is if I don’t write, nothing will get done. I can’t pass the blame on anyone. Making it my business to observe my surroundings and pay more attention to people, places, and things. Also to get out of a funk of just coming home from work sitting around and consuming. Not consuming in a sense of spending money but consumption as a whole. Whatever you give your attention to is a form of consumption. Whether its a tv show, a website, social media etc. I want whatever I consume to be worth my while and I want it to benefit me in some way. I also want to put something out into the world. Even if no one ever reads or visits my site I can say that I made a meaningful contribution to society the best way I could with whatever resources I had at that time.

 

All of the “lly’s”

Your intentions, the good ones, should transition into action. Your actions should be genuine and purposeful. The words you speak should be meaningful. What if you had to pay to speak? We could not and cannot afford to talk reckless or talk without thinking first. Our day to day convos should be meaningful. What we post on the internet/social media should be meaningful. Who we follow on social media should add value to our lives and inspire us in some way. What we give our attention to should be meaningful. For example, the things we read, the places we go, the websites we frequent, the movies we watch, the food we eat…

I believe we should find entertainment and fulfillment in things that will enable us to develop and grow in any and every way possible.

Spiritually. Mentally. Socially. Emotionally. Physically. Creatively. Financially.

Social courage.

The pressure is high for some, others, not so much. We desperately need it, but do we have the social courage to be socially honest? Being social has been the paradigm for quite some time now but a lot of us are still getting use to it. We hide behind these social media platforms for the sake of entertainment or personal gain. Does telling the truth even matter anymore? is life so miserable that we want or like being lied to, and even feel comfortable lying to ourselves?

I heard a quote from Tim Ferriss the other day and he said “social media isn’t designed to make you better, it’s designed to expose you.” I agree with that statement. We have control over ourselves and what we expose to the public. I don’t think the actual exposing is the problem. I think the problem is over-exposure and not caring or being conscious of what we’re doing. We all in some way want to be or remain relevant to the masses or some select group or audience. I have no problem with that. I myself want to stay relevant to the small core following that I have. But the question I pose is, at what cost are you willing to pay for relevance or attention? The world has shifted. Everyones voice and opinion can be heard. Unlimited information is literally at our fingertips. We’re able to start all sorts of businesses and create opportunities for ourselves that wasn’t possible 5 to 10 years ago. I think that’s a beautiful thing. But I think so many terms and strategies are overused and thrown around so loosely and people feel like they’re entitled to something just because of their following. I’ve seen so many people fall victim to self-destruction solely because they do too much looking around at what everyone else is doing and not paying attention to the individual in the mirror. We start to believe things about ourselves that may not be true. Regardless what’s at stake, not compromising creativity, do we have the social courage to be truly honest with ourselves first then translate that honesty to the world and be happy with whatever comes from that?