Stay true.

When you’ve reached certain points in life it feels like a weight lifted off your shoulders. Point being, the reason of this post stems from a conversation I literally had with myself a few years ago.

I’ve always loved clothes. Everything about clothing/fashion has always intrigued me. The process, the time invested, the fabric/material, the inspiration behind it etc. As a young man I always wanted the latest and greatest. That meant spending my last or money that I actually didn’t have just to “look” or “feel” cool. I’m still very much in love with fashion. But more interested in honest fashion, no scratch that. What the hell is honest fashion? I guess I’m into honest expression, honest style. Actually choosing to wear an article of clothing that means something to you, not just wearing something because the latest entertainer said it was the cool thing to buy.

Years ago when I realized that I wanted freedom more than I wanted to look or feel cool, a transformation took place. I desperately needed to be honest with myself. One day I woke up and said to myself if you keep buying the latest item that comes out every week, you’re going to remain broke. Not just financially, but “broken” in all forms. Spending unnecessary money on trendy shit just doesn’t feel good. It honestly never did but at one point I was too ignorant to pinpoint exactly what that feeling was so I just ignored it. It’s a feeling of emptiness. I’m still fighting that battle. Like I’ve stated, I’m into honest expression. I no longer feel out of place if my shoes/clothing aren’t the newest or the most expensive. I feel wonderful knowing that I am expressing my truth. My honest style and how that equates to my everyday life.

Random questions I asked myself today.

  1. Can I do more?
  2. What am I willing to risk?
  3. Am I telling, living, expressing my truth?
  4. What kind of person would my daughter describe me as?
  5. Am I the best son, friend, brother, grandson, uncle… that I can be?
  6. Am I in control of my emotions?
  7. Do I give enough… love, time, attention, affection…?
  8. Am I overthinking most things?
  9. Do I have what it takes to live the life that I desire?
  10. Can I do more?

Start where you are.

“How was your vacation?”

“How was your day off?”

Two questions that I overheard today as I was out and about. I witnessed/overheard this exchange two different times by two totally different people. In this case it happened to be two women. One was older and the other was middle age or so. One worked at a supermarket and the other worked at a bank. These are normal questions that anyone would ask, especially a co-worker. But far too often, no matter how old or young, ethnic background or gender I hear the exact same answers…. “Oh, hey Sally, how was your vacation?” “It was great! didn’t do much but anything beats being here.”

You guessed right. “Here” meaning the work place.

2nd encounter:

“Hey Janice, how was your day off?” “It was wonderful, I sat around the house all day and binge-watched House Of Cards. I’m just glad I didn’t have to come into this place.”

Many people share a common bond. They hate their jobs! But is anyone doing anything about it? it’s so easy to complain or make sarcastic remarks about our jobs but unconsciously or consciously most peoples lives suck just because of their job. As I’m writing this I’m currently at a job that I hate. I don’t complain about it because I’m doing everything in my power to change my reality. I think if most of us would just attempt to change our day to day lives we would be less stressed, more energetic and more in tune with ourselves, and in turn we would look within to help assist us in the process of creation.

I started this blog for the sole purpose of creating. I wanted to produce something. I wanted something that only I could do. We can all have the exact same experiences but we won’t have the same perspective. So right or wrong, you can agree or disagree with this blog as a whole but I’m creating something that no one else can. No one else can give my perspective besides me. Another incentive is if I don’t write, nothing will get done. I can’t pass the blame on anyone. Making it my business to observe my surroundings and pay more attention to people, places, and things. Also to get out of a funk of just coming home from work sitting around and consuming. Not consuming in a sense of spending money but consumption as a whole. Whatever you give your attention to is a form of consumption. Whether its a tv show, a website, social media etc. I want whatever I consume to be worth my while and I want it to benefit me in some way. I also want to put something out into the world. Even if no one ever reads or visits my site I can say that I made a meaningful contribution to society the best way I could with whatever resources I had at that time.

 

All of the “lly’s”

Your intentions, the good ones, should transition into action. Your actions should be genuine and purposeful. The words you speak should be meaningful. What if you had to pay to speak? We could not and cannot afford to talk reckless or talk without thinking first. Our day to day convos should be meaningful. What we post on the internet/social media should be meaningful. Who we follow on social media should add value to our lives and inspire us in some way. What we give our attention to should be meaningful. For example, the things we read, the places we go, the websites we frequent, the movies we watch, the food we eat…

I believe we should find entertainment and fulfillment in things that will enable us to develop and grow in any and every way possible.

Spiritually. Mentally. Socially. Emotionally. Physically. Creatively. Financially.